There is a death and a rebirth in all created things; so too in marriage—we die to “mine” and rise to “ours.” To be truly one, a couple must be united in Goals, Money, Ideas, and Responsibilities. This is even more true in the spiritual: prayer is no longer for you alone but for both. In this order of grace, the wife is like a type of Church—asking, pleading, gathering graces—while the husband, as head, receives them to spend himself in sacrifice for the good of the bride. Thus both advance: her intercession, his offering; one body learning daily dying and daily new life.